time

a mate of mine recently got engaged. i only found out a little while after the fact. actually, many people did. a few were mystified by this delay. some have even been apparently offended. inevitably people are guessing, wondering, coming up with conspiracy theories, trying to justify to themselves why they haven't been told, casting a shadow on what should be a very exciting and happy moment. i must admit that i too was mystified and felt a general unease at how things have turned out. it's so unfair! why should this been happening to such a gorgeous person during such a wonderful time?

thank god brumbles (another mate) cut through all the crap and declared: it's none of their business.

perhaps she had wanted to keep it her little secret just for a little while, a promise just between two people. to be able to go about her daily business with a core of happiness bubbling inside, washing over all the stresses of day-to-day life. i think it's a brilliant thing to do. like eloping with your lover, it is a private moment shared, defiant against the world. fantastic.

i suggested to brumbles that perhaps a big engagement party is what will clear the foul air and make the atmosphere warm and fuzzy once more. she shook her head and said: why? it's not her style, and she owes nobody anything. but how else is this to be resolved? i wondered. she hrmf-ed wisely and said: time.

oh all bow down before the wise one.